As a coach I constantly hear my female clients telling me the same message on a daily basis. Not enough time to do everything you feel you should and how guilty you feel when you cannot support those around you.
My advice on this matter- and this comes from the voice of experience! Put yourself first, learn to become utterly selfish! Now I know some of you are shuddering at this thought, but listen on.....
If you are ok in your world, you are more likely to be in a fit state to help those around you better; starting to make sense now isn't it?
I encourage you to say No more often to more people - and mean it when you say it! Delegate wherever possible, find other experts in their field who take on tasks you don't have time or skill for! Set boundaries around your own time and then allocate time for work, family, social and community activity.
Do the things you love most. Then your energy remains high and you can build your own internal coping mechanism for the tasks you are not so keen on (and haven't managed to delegate to others!)
So how come I am the expert on this topic? A few years ago, I worked in a role that I disliked, I had no time to spend with people I loved or liked and sat in endless traffic queues going nowhere fast. I wondered about the real meaning of life as I sat stuck in my car too many times. I did not take good care of myself, ate junk food, got too little sleep and spent too much time driving, worrying and trying to please everyone except myself! I ignored all the warning signals and as a result my health suffered!
My life was stupidly busy, full of activity that drained my energy and my inner faith, so I took a break from the job that exhausted me, I resisted the need to please everyone around me and feel I became a better person as a result.
Now those around me whether at work or at home say what an improvement in my mood and appearance they have witnessed. I am better to be around. Gone is the snappy person, the one who looked constantly tired, complained all the time and didn't smile enough. Why because I spend less time either on the ground struggling or up in the air on my real life see saw ' except when I choose, it can be fun sometimes to raise yourself to new heights! The main issue for me is to find absolute balance.
How can you find more balance in each day, so that you have more time to play on life's see saw?
Copyright (c) 2008 Jacqui Tillyard
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Jacqui Tillyard is a qualified NLP coach and stress management therapist. She specialises in working with people in high pressure careers and businesses and helps them find solution to their work life balance dilemmas visit www.careercasualty.co.uk for more details
